Romantic Relationships and Us

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He slammed the car door so hard that the car shook and the driver’s window was half up and he was completely surprised as to why the window broke. So, you did read the part where he slammed the car door so hard that the car shook and yet in the rage of his anger he was stunned by the broken car window! What happened ?

 

Well, hours before Bob was on his mobile phone arguing with his wife asking her why she left him with no money in the bank, no credit cards and no freaking house keys to get into the house. Pauline, the wife of Bob despite her leaving the home, had the locks on the house changed to be a meanie. What brings about such behavior ? Why would a loving relationship go bing bong bonk ! Well, what happened is that Pauline found photographs of her husband Bob and his lover, Paul !

 

Bob had been gay before he met Pauline. Pauline immediately fell in love with his beautiful hair, his gorgeous eyes, his personality, his sensitivity and his smile.   Bob hid nothing and told Pauline IMMEDIATELY that he was gay and had just broken up with his lover of many years. Pauline insisted that they would just be friends , but Pauline thought to herself that she would change Bob.   That is probably the same thought that many of use females and men have of someone that we want to be our romantic partner

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  • “oh it’s not a big deal, I can change that”
  • “my love will be SO great that ….
  • “he just needs some understanding and religion in her or his life”

 

Pauline was hurt and could not accept that the ONLY person we can change is ourselves. We cannot change the world! We can contribute to the well being, we can offer suggestions, “we can lead a horse to water but we cannot make him or her drink the water.”  Pauline was hurt and she wanted to hurt back, Pauline was saying, actually shouting “I am hurt and I want you to hurt back.” Now, what Pauline was not accepting is that Pauline was hurt because she felt like a failure and embarrassed after she said to herself that she was going to change Bob from being gay to being heterosexual. Don’t believe me ? Well, look at the actions of Pauline …… she took all the money out the bank, left Bob with no credit cards and intentionally changed the locks on the house despite moving out ……. actions which said I’m hurt and now you hurt!

 

We all want to be in a Romantic Relationship, We all want someone to come home to or wakeup with. However, we must remember to keep two feet on the ground when we get those feelings of “oh but I’m so in love, you just don’t understand so please stop being such a Downer Jane, Downer Bob.”

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Love Is Being You

Love Is Doing Something Because You Want To Not Because Want To Be Loved By __

Love Is Accepting That The ONLY Person We Can Change Is Ourselves

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