You Stopped The Cafeteria Line

Life is like being in a cafeteria line. You go thru the line and do not just stay in one place because the people behind you will start yelling. Hopefully you have been in a cafeteria line, maybe in school or in a restaurant. Typically people go down the cafeteria line and decide what items they want then move down. Occasionally there will be the person in the cafeteria line who stops in front of the entrees or vegetables. Maybe you have seen that person who just stops in the cafeteria line in front of the desserts. Geez so many good desserts which one do I take?

In life we meet good days and we have oh my gosh days . The most important thing is to remember that we have to keep moving. It’s just like being in a cafeteria line you stop in front of that fried fish unsure if that’s what you want and you will hear people moaning and groaning and possibly yelling. Life is not always easy and actually some people have it easier than others. People sometimes experience a death in their life which is one of the hardest experiences to have. However, we have to remember we grieve, we cry, we hold on to the good memories And Life Goes On. In my schooling of psychology I learned that any grieving past 3 days is considered abnormal per DSM 5 the Psychology Bible. When I first read that and it was discussed in class I though “oh my gosh how can that be only 3 days of grieving”. After the 3 days if person still is depressed or grieving the0n it’s considered a case of a psychological disorder of depression.

I read and re-read the textbook. I listened attentively as my instructor discussed the topic. Eventually after much thinking and evaluating I came to the conclusion that I understood why. I realized why it is considered abnormal if person grieves after 3 days. You see when someone is alive WE APPRECIATE that person, we love and we ACKNOWLEDGE the person. When the person dies we are saddened and that sadness of losing a loved one is normal. We get comfort in knowing that we acknowledged the person when person was alive. In every life there is a birth and there is a death, there is a start date and there is an end date. As I realized this I thought ay ha that is WHY only 3 days of grieving are normal because past 3 days you start to deal with issues guilt. Issues of guild can include having mistreated the person, cheated on the person, and so on. Therefore, the issue has turned from grieving for a loved one to dealing with issues unresolved.

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that we need a tune  up that we need to see a Psychiatrist or Psychologist. There is nothing wrong with taking medications. Person and or persons are in the process of becoming a better self. We are human beings going through life just like going through the cafeteria line with so many awesome choices. And sometimes it is necessary for someone to remind us to  move, life goes on. Life is like a cafeteria line. It is important to remember as we are in the line of life that we fall, we laugh, we are happy, we are sad AND life goes on, moving on.