It is all the same thing with the same objective regardless if it’s a date between man and woman or same sex date. Is dating any different from 1900’s or 1970’s or in 2018? Well, to answer that let’s first define what is a romantic date. Per the dictionary a date “is a certain day and time set aside to do something”. Then dictionary says “dating is a stage of romantic relationships where two people meet socially to see if they have anything in common and assess each others suitability’s”. Ah ha, did you read those key words of “dating is a stage of” which indicates that there are several stages several steps that might lead to a relationship and marriage. YOU understand that this is a date to get to know each other. We are not going to do the cheeseburger, fries and shake for sex after. This is not about sex services rendered for payment of dinner, a gift card, a movie or money. Come on we are all adults here lets be adults in discussing this topic.
Hum, I think we got that it’s a date. So, if dating is a stage of, just one of several steps that might lead to that final step of marriage. Well along these several stages these several steps of getting to know you, who is going to pay for the outings? Dinner is not free at the restaurants, the movies do come with buy one get one free or have matinee shows with less expensive prices however someone still has to pay for the tickets. In past years it was automatically assumed that it was the role of the male to pay for the date. However to assess if will get along, to check out his or her potential partner indicates both are doing this. If only one person is doing the assessing, checking out then it is assumed that moving forward is up to that one person. In actuality it is commonly up to both if want to move forward because it takes both to move forward. Both people get to know each other and assess each other to decide if want to go forward. However, in 2018 woman want equal rights and the cost of living is not the same as it was in the 1900’s or 1970’s so who is going to “dish out the bread or take out the plastic” so to speak. Who is going to pay for these “getting to know you” dates because it’s both people that have to say yes to go forward.
Ideally it would be great to still have the 1900’s or 1970’s atmosphere where male pays for everything however since we don’t have that then lets evaluate our choices. What we have is two people that want to get to know each other to see if they can have a romantic relationship. To get to know each other will take different scenes, different ambiance to see how the two interact with each other and others in the immediate area. For example how does one person treat the waiter at the restaurant. The object and the goal of this getting to know each other is because “hey I’m human and I’d like some company, I am awesome yes however I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone”. The standard date is dinner so is that going to be dinner at a restaurant? Is that going to be dinner at the place of one person where “the date” has access to the bathroom, looking at the place? Honestly, I am not too comfortable having a total stranger come into my place of residence with access to my bathroom where the shampoo, toothpaste etc are. Therefore, a restaurant date is best however who will pay for the bill and what type of restaurant. I suggest something neutral something that has no country origins. At that first date, at that one encounter talking and listening is the most important thing to do
• what type of places like to go to
• what are the expectations
• how is the waiter or waitress treated
• are all eyes on you or are other potential dates being checked out
In conclusion dating is definitely different in 2018 than it was in 1900’s or 1970’s. Statistics show that marriages have arguments and break up because of finances. Therefore, if finances are dealt with in an adult manner during dates then by the time and IF those dates go to the stage of marriage the finances will have a good foundation because finances dealt with during dating stages, the getting to know you stages. I go by the belief of dating getting to know each other is exactly that, two people that want to get to know each other, this is a stage, this is a step that MIGHT and might not go beyond the stage one. Regarding who pays for the date, well that is actually up to you, each person gets to decide for themselves. This is not a gender thing of male has to pay. The attitude of female has to pay because she gets paid more is an individual decision. In my opinion in some cases the date expense can be shared and split in half. Remember it’s both people that want to get to know each other. It is both people that have to say yes to go forward to the next date, the next stage, the next step.