Life

Appreciate Someone Before They Die Or Forever Guilt

The most important thing in life is to appreciate and love the person or persons when alive. We have the person or persons right now, at this moment.  It is when we do not appreciate and love the person or persons that GUILT will eat at us and guilt will extend the death sorrow. You are not sad or depressed because the person has died, you are actually sad and depressed because of the guilt you have.  Maybe you forgot to say “I love you”.   Maybe you were in too much of a hurry to say “I appreciate you”.   Maybe you gave a hurtful statement or remark. Maybe you were insulting. Maybe you just took for granted that the person would be their tomorrow to say   “hey thank you” or “hey I am sorry”.  

Where there is life there is a start date, there is an end date a dead and that stinks because we want the person to be with us forever. Regardless if that life form is humans, dogs, cats, plants or batteries.  One day you will hear

  • your dad is dad, my dad is dead
  • your mom is dead, my mom is dead
  • __ child died
  • the car battery is dead
  • the dog is dead
  • the cat died today
  • the remote control batteries are dead
  • look the plant is dead
  • wow their grass is dead

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For some people the death of a loved one brings anger.  Let me just say that anger in death in my opinion is normal.  In my opinion the reason that anger in some deaths is normal comes about when the person died because of a drunk driver, or run over or shot or killed.  Hopefully you understand my point that this type of death was because of the carelessness or anger or revenge of someone. Therefore is it understandable that the loved ones would feel anger.   The death of someone being sick is a different type of death because this sometimes brings about the “IF only we had ___ medicine or if only __ had taken better care of their health”.

The most important thing in life is to appreciate and love the person or persons when alive. We have the person or persons right now, at this moment.  It is when we do not appreciate and love the person or persons that GUILT will eat at us and guilt will extend the death sorrow. You are not sad or depressed because the person has died, you are actually sad and depressed because of the guilt you have.  Maybe you forgot to say “I love you”.   Maybe you were in too much of a hurry to say “I appreciate you”.   Maybe you gave a hurtful statement or remark. Maybe you were insulting. Maybe you just took for granted that the person would be their tomorrow to say   “hey thank you” or “hey I am sorry”.  

We do have Freedom of Choice however when that Freedom of Choice interferes with common sense it is necessary to re-evaluate the decision. In 2019 we these extra extended ‪ways of keeping dead loved ones around. And the guilt a person has and feels will want these extended ways of keeping a dead loved one around. We have people that want to cremate their dead loved ones then use the ashes to plant a tree or flowers on the home property.  Yes, believe or not some people do actually cremate their dead loved person then use the ashes to plant a tree or flowers.  Here is the source link just click on the word link. We have people that use the dead person cremated ashes to have a tattoo put on their body. We have people that use the dead cremated ashes of a loved one to turn them into a Vinyl Record. Here is the source link

Do you know WHY people want to extend their DEAD loved ones and turn their ashes into a tattoo or a plant?  The answer is because they want to prolong the DEAD loved one being with them.  People think that if they bring back the dead person as a planted tree or planted flowers that will give the opportunity, give the second chance looking for so can take care of or show love or show appreciate. WHAT are you going to do …….. buy organic fertilizer for the tree or plant to show you care for the dead loved person. Will turning a dead loved one’s cremated ashes into a tree or plant really help you feel better OR would it be best IF you cry and then cry again then start showing people you care about them and telling them you care about them.

In conclusion, in ALL life comes a dead and that stinks because we want the person to be with us forever. We mourn and like my mom always said “Life Goes On”. The next time you see someone that you care about don’t forget to say “love you” or “I appreciate you”.  You have no guarantee in life that you will see the person again or will have the opportunity to say something.  IF you say nothing or IF you insult or IF you argue you will regret not having said the nice things you desired to say.   All life regardless if humans, plants, pets or batteries have a start date and have an end date …. a dead.